Heading into a fresh new year with infinite possibilities, I wanted to share with you some of my greatest lessons of 2022. I believe experiences are only as useful as our personal reflective practice. With many new experiences through 2022, there have been many lessons. I am taking these with me into 2023. They are written by me, for me. If you find something you resonate with, take it with you into 2023! I hope you enjoy reading these as much as I enjoyed experiencing them.
1. Definition of ex-boyfriend: a co-dependent individual who will enter a new relationship 2 months later, and that is none of the ex-girlfriends business, and there is no shame in having all sorts of feelings about it. The more I resist my feelings the more they will persist. Gotta feel it to heal it!
2. Protect your peace: when I left and chose to walk my own path (different to the unspoken expectations), people had me think I’m the drama. I’m selfish. I’m not worthy. I’m inconsiderate. Tune out of the noise around you and tune into your body. Listen to your intuition. Set firm boundaries and hold your ground. “Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon and the truth” - Buddha. My truth will reveal itself in time too. Even if I’m currently not sure why I’m “moving the way I’m moving” I know - it feels right for me. Keep moving your own way.
3. Change takes courage: If you want something to change, take ownership of your part and take responsibility for creating the change you want. If you don’t own your actions, you’ll keep repeating the ones sabotaging your results.
4. To deny one, is to deny the other: You can feel both grief and love at the same time. How you heal is unique to you and that is okay.
5. Awareness changes experiences: once you have awareness you can never go back to being ignorant and sometimes that sucks.
6. Careful what you wish for: Your subconscious is always listening. Listening to the words you say, the words on the tv in the background, the music lyrics you don’t even know how you know, the thoughts you’re not acknowledging. The quality of your life is directly proportional to the language you hear and use.
7. Come as you are: let go of the need to be perfect. Let go of your perception of perfect. Use your energy accepting and loving what is - rather than fighting it. Being authentically you will bring the right people into your life.
8. The purpose of my life is not to look better; it is to feel more and heal. Keeping my body healthy means I can more readily heal the emotional wounds I will inevitably experience again sooner or later. I grow back stronger each time.
9. Pursue happiness indirectly: gratitude, vulnerability, relationships, small wins, spirituality, nature, serving others. If we chase happiness we will never catch up. Attract happiness by spreading more of it.
10. Sleep is more important than you think. Sleep is like a dishwasher: when we sleep our brain goes over our day again without the emotional gunk such as adrenaline and cortisol. This is why a good sleep helps regulate emotions. We wake up refreshed with a clean sleight! Otherwise, a poor night sleep means you’re carrying around yesterday’s gunk! Also, we lose weight and change body composition when we sleep. We breathe out fat as carbon dioxide.
11. Between the extremes there are infinite shades of grey: between all and nothing, there are so many itty bitty shitty little steps I can take to improve!
12. You become who you want to be in the future by showing up today: Change happens now. With the decisions you make now. Another way I like to talk about this is reminding myself that our muscles, bones and fat cells change completely every 7-8 years! Who you are 7 years from now is an accumulation of what you do between now and then. Make good choices, great things happen.
I leave you with this beautiful reminder:
You came naked
You will leave naked
You came without anything
You will leave without anything
You arrived weak
You will leave weak
So, why so much hatred, resentment, envy, selfishness and pride?
We will all go empty handed, what all material things we have earned, we earned here, and will leave everything here only.
The only thing that will go with you, that you actually earned here is the love you shared, the compassion you showed, the humbleness, your gratitude, your helpfulness, your kindness.
That is the legacy you will leave here that everyone will follow.
(unknown author)
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KEYWORDS: Reflection, Lessons, New Year, Journaling
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